Wherever You Go There You  Are is an amazing concept in itself and this book invites us into a new way of living so that we can truly be wherever we are. The first part of the book introduces us to the present moment and foundational ideas of mindfulness, the second speaks to the practice of mindfulness and provides full scripts to integrate it immediately and the third part extends the practice of mindfulness into the spirit of everyday life. I love how many of the chapters end with a ‘try’ section so that we are supported to apply it directly in our own life. This book is an essential resource for anyone wanting to do inner child work and strengthen the Self.
The thing I most value about this book is the way the authors really understand that when it comes to emotions, there cannot be separation between mind and body: emotions are always both physical and mental.
To me, this book is a bit like a box of dozens of colourful crayons – each ‘crayon’ being a technique or idea which we might want to try out and blend as we gradually create a unique map of our own personal journey of emotional healing. This book highlights the ways that self-compassion can lead to greater happiness, health and success.
I have recommended this book to many clients and they have all found it relevant and easy to read. For me, this book was immensely helpful as I could see where I was letting fear take over, such as being afraid to really be myself for fear that people wouldn’t like certain aspects of me. In the folk tale which the book is based on, a young man frees a wild and dangerous seeming giant called Iron John, who becomes his ally and mentor. It’s a nice tale, well told and well analysed from a Jungian perspective, but why out of all the psychological books I’ve read, am I particularly recommending it to you?
This book will capture your imagination in ways that other books trying to address these topics won’t.
Iron John is essential reading for men and anyone who wants to understand them – it is a classic, powerful, and very readable book.
Anatomy of Peace is amazing because it highlights those areas that are difficult to put into words at times as shape is given to the struggles that everyone has. This book is particularly useful for people who are angry – it shows them how to re-examine what it is that they are angry at and how to then move to a more peaceful existence. This book provides a gentle, effective and hands-on approach to how we can change our relationship with food and our body. There are pages and pages of useful exercises, but one of my favourites is “A Mindful Chocolate Meditation”. When someone discovers that the person they loved and trusted most in the world is hiding a secret life as a sex addict, the result can be devastating. Partners of people suffering with sex addiction need support to work through the trauma of betrayal. This amazing book teaches us how to identity our negative thought patterns and plug into more reasonable, rational thoughts. The book is about how to get more love, support, and companionship in our intimate relationships. What I loved about it was the stories from Dr Johnson’s practice, which demonstrate practically how to nurture, protect and grow our relationships. This book gives women survivors a context for their experience, what to expect in the phases of healing, practical exercises to help with healing, and stories of fellow survivors to let them know that they are not alone. The Courage to Heal and the accompanying workbooks also provide guidance & support to help those close to survivors. More and more couples are spending time apart due to long commutes or frequent business travel.
This book takes fresh look at couples in modern times and addresses the changing needs of couples staying connected in the fast-changing workforce and technological age.
It provides readers with important information, super commuter couples’ experiences, and helpful resources to assist couples in being connecting despite not a lot of time together physically.
The front of the book encapsulates the benefits of the book: “overcome depression, conquer anxiety and enjoy greater intimacy”. In Eating in the Light of the Moon (now available as an online retreat), the author discusses a range of issues related to body image and disordered eating through the use of myths and storytelling.
I have recommended this book to many who have come to see me to work on perfectionism, negative body image, and negative relationships with food. I have often recommended this book as a resource in couple’s therapy as well as to couples who are undergoing marital separation and relationship breakdown.
He explores the therapist-patient relationship, the therapeutic process, content, different issues in therapy, the value of dreams and the hazards and privileges of being a therapist.
Providing a unique map of soul trauma, Ferrucci develops a map of the rocky terrain of crisis and resolution, with the hope of soul restoration. This book brings light and hope, and gives purpose, meaning and value to the experience of a dark night of the soul.
I first read this book in 2006 and loved Bradshaw sharing his own experience of shame as a recovering alcoholic and an abuse survivor. Healing the Shame is written in an accessible way and can help us to understand and make sense of our feelings and behaviour relating to issues of abuse, addiction, abandonment, co-dependency and trauma through learning about the childhood roots of our adult shame.
Facing the Shadow is an innovative workbook that helps readers begin meaningful recovery from an often misunderstood addiction.
As a sex, porn and love addiction therapist, the primary reason I use this book is to support hope, recovery and focused non-shaming and safe healing in the recovering sex addicts I work with.
My clients share that having a workbook to support their healing with practical tools and real life examples is incredibly helpful in starting the healing journey.
The Gifts of Imperfection is separated into different guideposts to help us learn how to let go of who we thought we had to be, and to learn a new way to be our true selves – without the masks and perfectionism. Hellinger’s book uses constellation work to make visible dynamics operating in the family system and how entanglements negatively impact what he describes as the natural flow of love. I love how fearlessly Hellinger names the reality of each particular system; the pain, consequences and joy all equally without judgment. We can use constellation work to acknowledge and make visible our whole field of influence.
In addition, there is a feelings wheel at the back of the book where kids get asked to show how they are feeling today.
Along with Attachment-Focused Parenting: Effective Strategies to Care for Children, No Drama Discipline is my new go-to self-help book recommendation for parents.
Attachment theory as the basis for parenting has been used for many years to help build connection in families who have found each other through foster care and adoption – Dan Siegel now brings this way of parenting into the mainstream. This book shows us how to discipline in a calm, loving, nourishing and empathic way – which in turn deepens the relationship and provides the child with tools for building emotional intelligence.
Sydney Counsellor, Soul-Centred Life-Coach and Psychotherapist Jodie Gale, is a leading specialist in women’s emotional, psychological and spiritual health and well-being. The Inner critic subpersonality (superego) is that critical inner voice that judges, attacks, demeans and beats us up.
The inner critic keeps us stuck in shame, low self-worth and maintaining cycles of addiction, anxiety, depression, eating disorders and unhealthy relationships. By cultivating loving kindness and self-compassion, we can begin to silence the inner critic.

In psychosynthesis, the primary modality that I use in my clinical work, cultivating goodwill towards self and others is an essential part of the therapeutic process towards recovery, healing and overall well-being. Call the situation to mind, and see if you can actually feel the stress and emotional discomfort in your body. Now, put your hands over your heart, feel the warmth of your hands and the gentle touch of your hands on your chest. Is there a phrase that speaks to you in your particular situation, such as: May I give myself the compassion that I need. This practice can be used any time of day or night, and will help you remember to evoke the three aspects of self-compassion when you need it most.
Sydney Soul-Centred Psychotherapist, Eating Psychology Specialist + Transformational Life-Coach, Jodie Gale, is a leading specialist in women’s emotional, psychological and spiritual health and well-being. Jodie Gale is a leading specialist in women’s emotional, psychological and spiritual health and well-being. Far too often, I find practitioners who have set “glass ceilings” for their clients, often citing the client’s complexities of need or lack of motivation as the reasons why they cannot progress any further. A concept that has gained great ground over the last few years is that of ‘recovery capital’; a term used to describe the collection of personal, social and community resources that are available to individuals to help start and sustain recovery journeys. I get up in the morning because I have to, I have a vested interest in my work and my family – this is part of my capital.
If the individual suffering with addiction had no resources, no social buy in, why would they give up the one thing that in the short term comforts them and provides them with some purpose or connection? The New Economics Foundation (NEF) was commissioned to develop a set of evidence-based actions to improve personal wellbeing.
Holt Lundstad et al (2010) showed that having supportive relationships was a bigger predictor in decreasing mortality than giving up smoking.
Connecting or being connected works on a multiplicity of levels and is both intra (within) and interpersonal (between).  For the person suffering with addiction, it is about building or utilising existing networks of support, be that through family, friends, peers, mutual aid groups, the wider recovery community, community groups and associations. For the counsellor and psychotherapist, ‘connect’, is as much about how they connect to the client as to how they are connected in their own lives. From a holistic perspective, it goes without saying that diet and physical activity play a key part in wellbeing and addiction recovery.
Finally, it is worth noting the significance of reframing recovery as a “learning process”  with opportunities to gain mastery over new skills, do what is important and experience greater autonomy with plenty of opportunities to give back and engage in altruistic activities. The team at Emerging Horizons offer cutting edge recovery solutions underpinned by a vigorous commitment to supporting the development of world-class recovery support services in the UK. Connect with Emerging Horizons on Facebook for the latest in addiction and well-being news. Jodie Gale is a leading specialist in women’s emotional, psychological and spiritual health and wellbeing.
De Botton arranged to observe a career counsellor, Robert Symons, as he interacted with his clients (after obtaining the clients’ permission). Below I’ve compiled a list of books that I’ve either read, want to read, or want to refer to (even if they’re not worth a close reading).
Both healthism and self-help assume that individuals are ultimately responsible for their problems, whether medical or psychological. If the answer is no then take a step back and analyze what elements need to be changed in order for you to have the life that you deserve.The pathway to living a rewarding and fulfilling life can be found in Oli Hille's Creating the Perfect Lifestyle. In this blog post, 25 counsellors and psychotherapists from around the globe share 25 life-changing books that helped them and their clients to heal and grow. It offers something for everyone, from the beginner to the more experienced practitioner of mindfulness. This book has been a life changer for me and is the best book I have found on understanding and incorporating mindfulness into my life.
There is a lot of practical advice to help us to support ourselves when we are going through a difficult time.
This book is practical, grounded and full of wisdom and practical tips on fear and how we can overcome its debilitating grip.
I learnt that we can all relate to wearing that mask of protection and hiding, and that the mask was actually stopping me from having a deeper connection to others – the opposite of what I wanted.  In Fearless, I guarantee that you will find a few gems of wisdom (and exercises) that will help you to positively transform your life and your relationships.
With Iron John’s help, the young man endures poverty, protects the kingdom, and eventually wins the hand of the princess, to become king. As a non-macho, thinking man, this book helped me to like men more, and it helped me to feel more independent and more intimate in my relationship with my partner. The intention is to look into ourselves and determine how we are approaching our interactions with those around us; if we are able to see them as the people that they are with struggles and pain or if we see them merely as obstructions that get in our way. This helps me to realize when I am no longer being my best self and what that might look like when I interact with others.
Like all good mindfulness books, the emphasis is on actually doing mindfulness rather than reading about the theory.
Albers believes that rather than cutting out particular foods, like chocolate, we should aim to eat food mindfully, which in turn will help us to eat in moderation.
Facing Heartbreak is chock full of practical tools that are incredibly helpful in supporting the healing journey. It allowed me to really hone in on thought patterns that weren’t useful and many of my clients are thrilled with the simplicity of it. It is really useful because it blends the best research findings about what works to improve better communication between couples, with a writing style that is practical and easy to read. They can also begin to feel unstuck by practicing self-compassion and reaching out for empathy outlined in the book.  This opens the keys to feeling more connected and knowing that they matter, belong, and are lovable.
The key to the map is that it lets us know that we are not alone, even though we may feel temporarily lost.
He distinguishes between toxic shame, which is when we take on shame as an identity and healthy shame which is needed for society to function.
Additionally, this information serves to help build insight into many other aspects of life and relationships, while offering hopeful steps forward.
This flow according to Hellinger occurs when the natural order within the family is in harmony, which means all members have taken their rightful place and are acknowledged in that system. This was what changed my life, I saw my system in light of this and it allowed me a freedom I had never felt before even though it came with pain. It does a wonderful job illustrating what various moods can look like and it helps to normalize behaviors through the rhymes.
Generally, I use this book as a jumping off point to help children understand that they are not alone and that other kids, such as the main character in the book, may feel similar to how they feel. This is vitally important as there is a plethora of research emerging to back up the fact that disturbances in our early childhood attachment relationships contribute to a multitude of other concerns, disorders and impact all future relationships with self and others.
Punishment such as time out  – is out (because it leaves children feeling dysregulated) and time in – is in (because it creates connection and relationship)! Jodie Gale, Therapeutic Counsellor, Soul-Centred Life-Coach & Psychotherapist (Blog Author). She has a private counselling, life-coaching and psychotherapy practice in Manly and Allambie Heights on the Northern Beaches of Sydney.

Living with a tyrannical, punitive and harsh voice inside our heads can be debilitating – it stops us from achieving growth and living life to our full potential. Find a therapist in your area who is able to show acceptance, kindness, altruistic love, compassion and empathy – the lived experience of receiving these qualities through the therapeutic relationship will help to silence the inner critic. She is a therapeutic counsellor, life-coach and psychotherapist practising in Manly and Allambie Heights on the Northern Beaches of Sydney, Australia.
I see it as my job, and that of any counsellor or psychotherapist, to hold hope for the individual seeking recovery, until it can be fully internalised and experienced by the individual, whose current perception of themselves is often one of failure, helplessness and shame.
Relationships and community ties are some of the things that help me to manage and adapt to adversity and the unexpected. This is especially pertinent when the individual is highly self-critical, may lack confidence or is trying to find evidence to confirm their self-limiting view of themselves and the world.
The NEF completed a large scale analysis of research on wellbeing, with a particular focus on ‘Positive Psychology’.
Last week I was training a recovery coach, who self-managed his own recovery, exclusively using the 5TWB, monitoring his life around these 5 core behaviours.
The importance of authentic relationships (quantity and quality) is essential to wellbeing. It is also about overcoming the possible barriers to relationship and connection: shame, stigma, attachment difficulties, limiting core beliefs, issues of trust, pride and social competence. Paradoxically the greater our sense of belonging, the greater our sense of autonomy is likely to be. For me, the application of mindfulness based psychologies and teaching to support the maintenance of recovery, resilience and wellbeing is also key and should now be the norm and a definite in any credible relapse prevention program. Couns) is trained in psychosynthesis psychology, therapeutic counselling, life and performance coaching, substance misuse, management and engineering.
They have delivered training to some of the largest voluntary sector provider agencies in the UK as well HM Prison Services, Probation Trusts and NHS Foundation Trusts. The audio is an excerpt from a speech by Barbara Ehrenreich, where she elaborates on ideas from her book Bright-sided: How the Relentless Promotion of Positive Thinking Has Undermined America. Unfortunately, there’s a huge commercial market in positive thinking, so her insights face an uphill battle. Or rather, it thrives in a particular vacuum—the one left behind by the disappearance of certain public values that once fulfilled our lives. Personal responsibility relieves society of the expense and inconvenience of creating healthier, more equitable lives for its members. Neff has extensively researched the benefits of being gentle, kind, and forgiving with ourselves and shows us how self-criticism fails us. Brenda combines the best of East and West to show us how we can be courageous – helping us to be more authentic, accepting, loving as well as how we can have more fulfilling relationships.
Men have got lots to learn from women, but there are some things they need to learn from other men. It weaves real life stories with practical therapeutic advice and specific tasks that gently educate, empower, and guide the partner of the the person suffering with sex addiction through a process of recovery. The book is respectful, well-written, and transformational.  This book was written by Mari A. Additionally, it is very important that they feel validated and honored and this workbook and information serves to help support, connect and validate the partner’s trauma while offering hopeful steps forward. It shows us that sometimes it REALLY IS that easy to become aware of and change our thoughts! This is the best book out there for women to explore their relationship with their body and food. Patrick Carnes’ researched-based thirty-task model of treatment—the most respected therapy model available for treating people with suffering with sex addiction. I had respect for the order and let go of the struggle, welcomed the pain and also the joy and wonderful things happened within my marriage and for my family. Hope can be nurtured by exposure to success – people who have done it themselves and where recovery is visable. Having come up with a list of the key common findings, they were tasked with reducing these down to a simple and workable message that would support people to adopt behaviours that promote wellbeing, in a similar way that the public health message of ‘5 a day’ aims to encourage healthier eating. It is especially important for individuals addressing an addiction where their social needs and identity may be intimately linked to the culture of addiction they have lived in – with its rituals, beliefs, roles and relational networks. Because connection is so important, I would suggest that a more proactive approach to working with the client’s network of support is called for. He has worked across a range of substance misuse and mental health services; spanning areas such as engagement, medical and non-medical community treatment and residential rehabilitation. Although I never got around to writing about it, I’ve repeatedly recommended a great article by William Davies called The Political Economy of Unhappiness. Healthism is an anxious preoccupation with one’s physical health, encouraged by those who profit financially from inducing anxiety. Second: this book is a guide for finding potency and wildness that is not abusive towards or rejecting of women or femininity. Lee, LMFT and her co-authors who are experienced Marriage and Family Therapists and Certified Sex Addiction Therapists, as well as former partners of sex addicts. I found myself highlighting passage after passage that resonated with conversations I’ve had with clients.
There is growing evidence of the significant impact that the therapist’s own expectations have on efficacy of interventions and this is particularly so in addictions.
With particular expertise in change management and leadership, Damian has a strong track record in the implementation and turnaround of large, recovery orientated, integrated substance misuse services and treatment systems.
I knew that if I read about self-help I would want to write about it, and I wasn’t quite sure I wanted to do that at The Health Culture. It’s about the responsibility of Britain’s National Health Service to keep workers happy, not for the benefit of employees, but to improve corporate efficiency. But in the past there was always a countervailing force, an American stew of shame and pride and citizenship that kept these impulses walled off, sublimating private anxiety to the demands of an optimistic meritocracy. Self-help is an anxious preoccupation with one’s psychological self, encouraged by an abundance of self-help literature, personal seminars, and tell-all TV shows. He has special interests in group work, mutual aid, conflict resolution, mindfulness based practices to support healing and wellbeing and community development and regeneration.
That force has gradually been weakened by the erosion of all sorts of structures, from the corporate career track to the extended family and the social safety net.
Damian is passionate about helping others to connect with their values, meaning and purpose and translating this into action.
Less Work.Part 39 - The Main EventI can’t wait for you to read this book because it really does contain fantastic keys to creating a wonderful life for you, and the people around you.PLEASE do not download this book and then forget about it!

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