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The Reflection group aims to bring individuals - and together to explore and stimulate their spiritual potential. Some people call it the Law of Attraction, the Law of Success, the Power of Positive Thinking, the Secret, while others may simply call it magic. It is like exercise, when you are doing it regularly, it is very beneficial for your well-being, but when you stop doing it, you will gradually lose its benefit. The following handouts and worksheets are from my Tips and Tools for the Therapeutic Toolbox series by mental heath publisher, PESI. For book recommendations for clinicians as well as clients, see my recommended Bibliography page.
Visit me on Facebook at my new Tips and Tools Facebook Page where we can share resources with one another! Although PESI is a Continuing Education Provider for mental health professionals, anyone interested in mental health and self help can sign up and benefit from these practical life skills web casts (and the books below) that are geared towards therapists to help clients.
The following psychotherapy resources are some examples of psychoeducational materials such as free therapy handouts and therapy worksheets that therapists can use and download for use with their clients.
Since they are self-explanatory as stand alone resources, really anyone interested in self help can enjoy these various materials. Life skills are the common everyday skills you need to manage your life effectively and cope with life challenges. Below are some sample free therapy handouts, therapy worksheets, self-help quizzes and therapeutic group activities.
For the public I offer personal development plans, stress management techniques, positive thinking strategies, practical life skill strategies, and more. For counselors I offer psycho education strategies, counseling skills, social media for mental health professionals, making counseling groups innovative, and more. I am not sure exactly where this concept comes from, but it is quite common among cancer patients. There is a small caveat even when it comes to the influence of positive thinking on cancer outcome. If CLL was a simple disease with well defined guidelines for treatment, it may not be that important.
August 27, 2010 — Personality has no effect on cancer risk or cancer survival, concludes a new study based on the largest and most relevant dataset to date. It is time to finally retire the hypothesis that personality has an effect on cancer, say psychologists reporting and discussing these findings in the August 15 issue of the American Journal of Epidemiology. In the study, Naoki Nakaya, PhD, and colleagues from the Institute of Cancer Epidemiology at the Danish Cancer Society in Copenhagen, analyzed data from more than 4500 cancer patients and found no effect of personality on either risk or survival. The hypothesis that personality influences cancer can be traced back to the times of the Ancient Greeks, the editorialists note. Many of the theories on personality and cancer were proposed by Hans Eysenck, who was involved in some of the early studies and who developed the personality test that was used to measure extraversion and neuroticism in many of these studies. On the basis of a small study, published in 1962, that found that lung cancer patients were more likely than control subjects to score high on extraversion and low on neuroticism, Eysenck proposed that these personality traits affect an individuals’ risk for cancer because they affect stress, which in turn affects the immune and endocrine systems. Some of these theories were extended to cancer patients, with the idea that the accumulated repression of emotions would cause stress, which again, through an effect on immune and endocrine functions, would have a negative effect on cancer progression. This led to the idea that psychological factors such as optimism and fighting spirit can have a positive effect on cancer. Although the idea that a fighting spirit prolongs survival offers a sense of hope, it can also cause turmoil in the lives of cancer patients and their families, which is very sad when patients have only a limited time left, Dr.
They analyzed data collected in twin studies conducted in Sweden and Finland, in which all participants completed personality questionnaires, and linked it to data collected in the national cancer registries of both countries. For the analysis of the association with risk for cancer, data from both Sweden and Finland were used. For the analysis of the association with cancer survival, only data from Finland were used. Neither analysis found any association between extraversion or neuroticism and the risk for cancer at any site or the risk for death from cancer at any site. They note, however, that their own study found a significant positive but very weak association between extraversion and neuroticism and the risk for lung cancer; this has also been seen in previous studies.
The team also found a significant negative association between neuroticism and the risk for liver cancer, but they suggest that this might be a chance finding. Not exactly philosophy in a nutshell, is it, but I don’t trust nutshells, overly-simple answers, formulas, even statistics. It will be a great relief not to ALSO deal with guilt over feeling angry or scared at times, or worry that I’m making myself sicker by allowing negative feelings to come and go. Incidentally, I had a friend with breast cancer who decided to go with positive thinking and nutrition.
As a 15 year CLL survivor and an oncology massage therapist, I can testify from my own experiences as to the extreme value of a positive mental attitude. What and how we think may not influence the medical quality of our destinations but it surely influences the quality of our experiential journeys.
Thanks, I agree with mswolf and holly, It is what it is, yet we do become our own advacate at the same time.
I found for myself, that after having lived with my diagnosis for a few months, I learned to cope by operating on two levels.
On an emotional level however, I have deliberately fostered my natural inclination to feel hopeful and positive, and try to live my life with an attitude that we live in a beautiful world with lots of good and kind people. I am not perfect at doing this of course, and sometimes I get a chilling stab of fear, or occasionally wake at night and lie there feeling sad and sorry for myself, but if I look at my life honestly, I would say that when I find myself feeling unhappy, it is more likely to come from problems with people in my life, than it is from CLL.
The article is interesting, but I am not swayed as much by epidemiological evidence as I am by personal experience.
As some of you have shared CLL has also helped me discover a heightened sence of appreciation for the many small pleasures & joys in my daily life.
So yes, I agree a positive attitude may not impact our quantity of life but it sure does increase our quality of life (and the lives of all those we come in contact with). Bless you dear Chaya for being such an excellent patient advocate for our entire CLL community.
In a letter to my family GP this month, he said I was in complete remission, much to his surprise, completely unexpected…now thinking of a possible stem cell transplant in the future??? We are trapped in this element of time which we as humans have created…it truly does not exist. As we all know, those people, places or things we have known, seen or read about, been told about live on within each and everyone aware of their existence past or present. Thinking rationally, we all must realize, we do not and cannot control the microscopic level of the life within this universe we call a body.
Live life to the best of your ability…share your dreams, fears, thoughts, hugs while you have the physical ability to do so. Few people would maintain that positive thinking alone can cure cancer (or any other disease). Keep going, your patient advocacy is second to none, but I hope you don’t expect us all to believe the fruits of your cogitations.
Do I influence the message by my “voice”, by what I chose to review, by the bias I bring to the table?
You said – “In a stretch, I suppose one can make the case that mental attitude influences how immune system functions and that in turn influences how CLL behaves. There is a school of thought about disease and treatment that is captured in the following two quotes. If that has any truth to it, how might this apply to CLL; irrespective of positive mental attitude?
You would probably say that CLL cells have learned to hide really well from our compromised immune system – well, what if we knew how to re-program our immune system? And of course the reason that you have seen no evidence that this is possible, is because no one is yet willing to invest in that line of research.
These are just hypothetical arguments presently, but I intend to continue pursuing scientific knowledge on this subject. Acceptance of the NOW is not always easy but can be a beautiful gift to ourselves, family and loved ones. I am conscious of the idea that trying to live a healthy life now may help me down the road when treatment becomes necessary.
Most human cultures believe that life is precious and that people should fight for their existence no matter what. The first person to induce a good dose of positive thinking into my brain was my Oncologist from India at MDA. I do get scared sometimes and worry but for the most part I am very grateful for all the Lord has given me. I rarely comment here, but am greatful for all of Chaya’s work and the info this site provides. I believe that my quality of life is better because of the steps that I took after learning that I had CLL. Anyone who is truly positive is also honest enough to say “Ouch” when it hurts!! I love redheads, there are three little California Finches sitting on the nearby fence, the sunshine blazing their red feathers brighter than anything possible.

Correlation is never causation and often times we can identify correlation far easier than causation.
I was first alerted by a high white blood cell count and told to immediately see my doctor.
This article like so many issues brought forth here are the touch of reality that give us all hope and guidance for our future.
I do wish those who don’t agree with her would provide some evidence for their assertions, something convincing.
In my own case I think I gave a pretty good attitude with my CLL but have been frustrated with people who try to enforce their belief system on me. Since links are stripped from comments, here, google: Can We Use Our Minds to Influence Cancer Outcomes?
My husband had better than average health habits, a stressful job and was rocked emotionally by his CLL diagnosis. The Healing Power of Positive Thinking published in 1980 is one of a number of books that helped start and spread this myth.
Regarding health and most other things, I have always had a very positive attitude and done whatever it took to keep myself fit.
I was diagnosed in March of 2006 and have not yet had any treatment for the CLL other than green tea supplements. Well, after reading the numerous comments to Chaya’s article, I have not come across a situation which reflects my thoughts on CLL.
At this point, after 23 CBCs, all the warning lights are going off on the CBC-CLL dashboard. I’m not sure which path I will take, but no treatment is where i am leaning (that could change with time).
Being non-religious and highly sceptical of anything paranormal, I believe that all we have is right here and now.
CLL Topics Updates does not provide medical advice and its contents are for information only.
You are accountable – being accountable for your work and for the things in your life; being accountable means you no longer blame others for things that are going on in your life. Be optimistic – believing in yourself, in your team, in your colleagues and in your family is important for success.   By being optimistic you will be able to get those around you to follow your lead and go in the same direction. Be solution oriented – if you have a challenge at home or at work that is a reality of life. Show Gratitude –    Being gracious means seeing the good in people and situations and expressing your appreciation. We have all been through situations that seem unfair and have had a negative effect on our lives.
The Content is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Having detailed the problems with positive thinking, I now want to turn to the power of positive thinking and how it can be a useful tool in your toolkit, provided you keep yourself grounded and recognize that positive thought does not automatically guarantee success. It offers an environment of mutual inspiration, providing powerful ways for people to meet and interact, meditate and eventually work together. It really doesna€™t matter what it is called, but what is clear is that your mind is capable of accomplishing amazing things.
Here is a video I made for PESI to introduce my books and offer some practical tips and tools you can use with your clients.
Although the following links are no substitute for therapy, they can reinforce important life skills concepts and can provide structure and practice between sessions. Since we are not born with instruction manuals about life, and formal schooling focuses much more on academics than personal adjustment, learning life skills is essential to developing our emotional intelligence, resilience, work-life balance, and much more. Visit back soon as more links are added to help you fill up your mental health life skills and therapy toolbox! Clients go to therapy wanting to change, but often they have no inherent knowledge of how to change. Ranchor coauthored an editorial that accompanied the study with Robbert Sanderman, PhD, also from the University of Groningen, and James C.
Nakaya, principal investigator of the study, told Medscape Medical News that he agrees that it is time to retire this hypothesis, and urges physicians to tell cancer patients about these findings so that they can stop worrying. The idea resurfaced in the 1960s after a few positive studies — which have since been severely criticized — led to the idea that some personality traits lead to an increased risk for cancer, and that once cancer has developed, optimism and a fighting spirit can extend survival.
His explanation for this was that people who scored high for extraversion would seek out stimulation and would therefore experience high levels of stress, and that people who scored low for neuroticism (which measures emotional instability) would tend not to express their feelings and would therefore experience a high level of emotional stress. Nakaya was at the Danish Cancer Institute — he has since returned to Japan, and is now at the Kamakura Women’s University.
It involved 59,548 individuals who had completed questionnaires and 4631 cases of cancer, with a maximum of 30 years follow-up.
It involved 2733 cancer cases and 1548 subsequent deaths, with a maximum of 29 years of follow-up.
They explain this by suggesting that this effect is mediated through smoking — people with a certain personality are more likely to smoke, increasing their risk for lung cancer. That has been the key for me so far–letting myself (and my husband and children) have the feelings that come, and recognizing that nothing, including fear and anger, is forever.
Negative feelings will come, death will come, but in the meantime, life can be such an enjoyable experience.
This fits in with other responsible articles I have read regarding positive thinking, personality and cancer outcomes. My husband’s attitude towards dealing with his aggressive CLL has always been admired by family and friends. I can read about CLL and receive test results and find out about poor prognostic indicators, and mostly receive all this interesting information on a relatively calm intellectual level, and accept the fact that statistics tell me I have problems ahead of me and a limited lifespan. I don’t think that my cancer cells take any notice of this what so ever, but it sure makes me happier, and gives me the motivation to do everything I can to explore treatment options, to maintain my health and enjoy my life. What I have learned over the years is that a positive attitude will greatly enhance my quality of life. A young woman who had been tragically paralyzed in an auto accident talked about her battle to regain any sense of joy in her life. But I have learned over the years (that when I am troubled) to re-focus on all the blessings in my life (past & present). Then her boyfriend went off with someone else and she was hadn’t seen it coming and was very hard hit.
There is no way of avoiding that, I would not be human if I was able to keep every bit of my own personality out of it. We are at our best when we give the doctor who resides within each patient a chance to work.
I also believe a postive mental attitude is good for everyone not just for those with termnal illnesses. Perhaps for those who have CLL and other cancers the idea of our mortality is more obvious. Who knows, its fun to speculate about, but it is also more fun to go through life happy than to be miserable all the time. Quantifying subjective emotional states does not lend itself to objective scientific method. I realy believe that if I did not have that positive attitude that caused me to change my lifestyle that I may not be alive today. If someone becomes ill and, out of fear, decides a positive attitude will help, is that ‘positive’? I know that fear and acceptance along with 40 other emotions are part of how I experience each day. During the doctor’s visit prior to the surgery, I met the diagnosis of CLL with shock and utter disbelief.
I did not know that it was possible to get so tired struggling to do so little; going to bed tired and waking up not feeling rested. My many years dealing with a spinal situation and associated side effects from the prescribed opiates have not allowed me to feel much at all about my CLL. Regardless, the collaborative forum and articles that Chaya provides for us sure makes things much more easy. As I entered high school I stopped wearing my retainers and eventually they were misplaced.
Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical or mental health condition. These free downloadable therapy handouts, worksheets, self help quizzes and life skills activities provide psychotherapeutic resources that ensure continued growth and personal development. Skill building through these free downloadable Cognitive Behavior Therapy worksheets and Communication handouts help your clients put to practice what they learn in the therapy session. It’s up to the therapist to build a well-stocked toolkit of life skills and psychoeducational strategies. If doctors see that the patient and family are struggling with this issue, then providing relevant information can bring some peace of mind, she explained. Patients might be accepting of the disease, but the family thinks that they should fight because they want the patient to recover. These null results should be given a weight that takes into account not only the study’s superior sample size but also its methodological strengths, they explain. The team was headed by Christoffer Johansen, MD, PhD, DMSc, head of the department of psychosocial cancer research at the Institute of Cancer Epidemiology at the Danish Cancer Society. It’s good to see in print that a down day is not a treatment (or moral) failure on my part. A good attitude positively influences every aspect of my daily life and all my interpersonal relationships with family, friends, etc. It is very difficult for a person to do otherwise, and we all know pretty much what to expect from you.
It is hard enough writing about such serious topics without having to take responsibility for what you and other members believe.
While certain mental diseases like schizophrenia that are organically based can be accurately diagnosed, attitudes and feeling within functional ranges can not be assigned any accurate value- they are opinions. He does not speak much but what he said straight after the results became evident of my condition was: You have the best there is, and when you will require treatment your body will respond most favorably. Of course this is not true with everyone, but as John said, both sides of this issue can be easily argued.

We didn’t utilize or have easy access to the alternative medicine support that is out there at some treatment centers. Your way is a strictly let’s say biochemical way, like the basic of all the western therapies based on the theory of cellular pathology of Virchow. I’d just like to include one of my favorite quotes, from Chief Tecumseh of the Shawnee nation.
This could change in the future once the CLL begins to out spar the spinal ordeal, but not yet since the CLL is still at the bottom of my totem pole of concern.
Thus my message is, take the data and do what you want with it, but don’t beat on her for something you disagree with in her articles or philosophy. Never disregard professional medical or mental health advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have read on this Website. What has made both of these books useful is their focus on practical implementation of positive thinking in conjunction with other skills that are necessary for any venture. It seeks to identify and address key challenges and be a catalyst for advancing thought on spiritual issues and strategies. In our daily lives, we constantly encounter negative thinking people who just drag us down.
Stress management activities and techniques, counseling worksheets, counseling activities for individuals as well as group counseling sessions, all provide valuable life skills information and opportunities to practice new skills.
For those interested in group therapy activities, there is also a couple sheets here that are perfect for interactive group activities. However I believe this does NOT mean we shouldn’t live as happily and healthily as we can! Eventually with the help of therapy she came to see that one thing she could change was her outlook, her attitude.
Moreover, there is a body of perfectly respectable research showing that individual psychology influences a person’s physiology. But it could equally well be argued the other way by someone who happened to belive the reverse.
And, I am living the life I would have led if I had not had this dx- at least for as long as I can. I would have been glad for him to have been able to get past the scary CANCER word and used some positive ways of thinking. But there is much more enery and there is much more behind cancer, illness and cure, we are still not able explaining it with our rational mind.
Again, I was hoping to find someone here who had a similar situation, but i have not found one. It only allows us to be stuck there and to attract more things into our lives that we do not want.
An important caveat must be noted about both these books: they were written by white men in the early to mid twentieth century, with little, if any, awareness of critical race theory or class issues.
We invite individuals from a variety of disciplines to engage in lively, and open dialogue, convinced that we have much to learn from the experience and perspectives of others.
She began her journey to reclaim and reconnect with whatever joy she could find in her life. Her GP sent her to hospital where they diagnosed myeloid leukaemia that had started three months before. Certainly mental attitude can indirectly affect health and survival but it is a waste of time trying to quantify it. I don’t believe in beating ourselves up for any reason and think that can lead to all sorts of negative feelings and perhaps neg. I regret that we absorbed the misery, my lame and amateur attempts to include humor did not fly. Just as I was turning left, I could see a car out of the corning of my right eye rounding the curve and heading my way. I note this caveat because if you choose to read these books, you’ll find the language somewhat dated and may at times have reactions to the lack of awareness these authors demonstrate. We look for a discourse characterised by mutual respect, humility and a shared passion for spirituality. A great way to counter this negativity and keep you inspired and motivated is to surround yourself with positive thinking people who wish to accomplish amazing things with the power of their own mind. I watch for glimmers of his light, but after weekends like this past one, where he is so nauseated and weak, can hardly keep his eyes open and I do hope that his big personality will find its way back. She became a successful attorney, filled her life with family and friends and re-discovered the blessings of happiness and love once more.
Vide the UCLA study showing that a placebo effects brain structure, when monitored by PET scans. Do you consider, btw, the negative psychological effect some of your articles may have on some people? The pop beliefs that worry causes ulcers and type “A” personalities causes heart attacks has been debunked. Recently they published a result of medical studies in Europe – more than 60% have serious methodological flaws. Ryan is almost 15 and she wrote this real account of a situation that occurred last weekend.
My initial reaction was to hesitate, let off the gas, and make sure the car was going slow enough so that I would be able to make the turn and be safely ahead of it. With that said, if you read these books with an eye toward what you can take and apply to your own life, you may get some good ideas. You want the nurse to be extra careful in getting the dosage right, get a good vein the first time she pokes you with a needle. As his wife and care giver I too feel the pressure to be positive, especially in these days where one problem solved seems to quickly lead to another, newer and stranger one.
So, I prefer to keep my true feelings that are sort of neutral as far as mood and be myself.
This post is peppered with so much humor, truth, and life lessons…I had to share it with all of you. I agree with you that only with positive thinking, you gonna have a hard time to cure yourself of cancer.
Make the ten years he does have a living hell because he is so depressed and angry about not having more than the ten years. I am continually amazed and gladdened by the dedication of the researchers and carers who are moving heaven and earth to try and produce better outcomes for us. I exercise more than before and I have a theory that if the body is programmed to deal with infection it can arrest the progress of my white cells. Some people send me their products to try and to use, so that I can give a better and more realistic testimony. In Think and Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill introduces the concept of the Master Mind Group, where you meet with a group of people pursuing similar goals and share your challenges and on-going work as a way of getting advice and ideas. I am heartened by the mutual assistance and sharing shown by fellow patients on this and the Acor site.
There are many people in this world a lot worst off them I am so I try to remind myself of that little fact when I start to feel sorry for myself. With three girls still living at home, there are a lot of clothes and shoes to go through, hand down, and donate.
I learned, and ignored, many life lessons based on whether I paid attention to my mom's cliches and applied them. We do this before we go school clothes shopping, so we know what they need and what they want. Together with a group of psychologist he invented a special method of visualization on a scientific basis. The emotional perspective you apply to a situation does have some effect on the outcome, at least in terms of what you’ll notice about the experience. For more than 20 years he recorded great successes combining Chemo with this visualization technique (a kind of positive thinking). If you are consistently negative in your outlook, that does cause you to experience a given situation through that particular emotional filter. I am a tax preparer and it never occurred to me that the chemo would interupt that tax season and it didn’t.
I think it’s worth to look at disease from a new perspective, particulary when the results are much better than the offered standard therapies. In The Magic of Thinking Big, David Schwartz talks about how important it is to approach problems through creative thinking. Sometimes an obstacle can’t be overcome directly, so learning to think laterally is essential. By cultivating your creative thinking, you can discover ways to solve problems that other people might write off as impossible. Thinking positive includes thinking creatively about problems, but also includes thinking creatively about life in general.
Learning to examine a given situation creatively can help you discover solutions and opportunities, as well as appreciate the value of unorthodox ways of living your life.Positive thinking complements other tools.
Positive thinking, when applied with other methods, can be effective in any number of situations.
Don’t just think positive, but look at what you are actively doing to implement that positive thought into action. A thought without action has only a subjective reality, but a thought that is turned into action creates an opportunity to manifest an objective result. For example, if you own a business, positive thinking alone won’t help you run that business. Taylor has a background in both Eastern and Western Magical practices, as well as being an experimenter with magic. When Taylor isn't working on his latest magical project, he is a business coach, who helps businesses grow, as well as an avid gamer and exerciser. Recent Posts Full Frontal Magic: A Practical Mantra Enchantment Dandelion Seeds: How Do We Become Indigenous?

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