Of all the things I learned years ago that created the life I’ve been fortunate to lead, two stand out head and shoulders above the rest. Our thinking is driven by our “mindset” (the ways we’ve learned to think), which is in turn driven by our beliefs, mostly unconscious. A belief that dogs are threatening or dangerous might be triggered by a bad experience as a child. Most psychological issues I encounter in my clients have similarly been generated by behaviour.
Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) begins with a behaviour that generates a perceived benefit, leading to more of the behaviour.
Depression is usually initiated by life circumstances but is reinforced by behaviour, such as withdrawal and isolation, that adds to the negative beliefs driving the depression. The cure for almost all psychological problems is to reverse the behaviour, thus challenging and undermining the beliefs driving the issue. If changing behaviour, while accepting uncomfortable feelings, can cure psychological problems, the same approach can also be used to generate powerful self-beliefs. When I discovered this truth around the age of 30, I chose to use it to radically change my life. If you’d like to change your mindset, become more successful and live an inspiring life, I strongly suggest you start taking actions that reflect how you’d like to be, while fully accepting any temporary anxiety or other discomfort that may result. Graham W Price is a Chartered Psychologist, stress management consultant, therapist, coach and development trainer.
When you’re upset, stressed, or tired your mind does not function in the same manner it would if you weren’t in such a state.
As you can see, by altering your perspective, you can shape the flow and enhance the direction of a negotiation. Growth Mindset is a simple idea discovered by Stanford psychologist Carol Dweck with decades of research on achievement and success. Stay connected to everything we are doing at Coronado SAFE to support you and your children.


In this article I’m continuing that theme by providing evidence from the world of psychology and by describing my experience of using this tool. Our beliefs are mainly formed by life experience but can also be created, reinforced or even undermined, through our behaviour. Anxiety is universally maintained and aggravated by avoidance behaviour that reinforces the negative beliefs driving the anxiety. That may initially generate uncomfortable feelings that just need to be accepted until they too subside.
Behaving powerfully, while accepting any resulting discomfort, universally generates powerful self-beliefs.
On the first day I had to speak to an audience of 250 (my largest previous audience had been 30). In an agitated state of mind, you run the risk of belaboring a point that has no tactical influence on the flow or outcome of the negotiation. If the child starts to avoid dogs, and that continues, the initial belief will be repeatedly reinforced and a phobia may well result. This leads to more of the behaviour until an unconscious belief is formed that’s experienced as a “need”. In my experience this “cure” always succeeds, though in some cases additional tools may also be needed. On the same day I had to sign up for a challenge that culminated in being alone on stage entertaining an audience of 600 with nothing prepared. I met successful people, listened to their advice and copied their behaviour … and so became more successful. You’re also more likely to become angry and do something dumb causing the other negotiator to become entrenched in a position that could lead to an impasse. In a growth mindset, people believe their most basic abilities can be developed through dedication & hard work—brains and talent are just the starting point.
The other was understanding how our actions drive our mindset, the subject of this series of two articles.


The point is, prior to negotiating make sure you’re in a rested mental state of mind and you control your mindset during the negotiation.
If during times of perceived impasse you look at the negotiation from a different perspective, you’ll discover possible solutions to the impasse.
I didn’t need to do it if it was illegal or immoral, physically or financially risky, if it might disadvantage others or if I didn’t have the time.
If you wish to alter the perspective of your negotiation counterpart, try to get him to see your point of view from a value-added perspective. When you unencumber your mind, it can reward you with thoughts that an encumbered mind can’t deliver. Most people don’t consider a solution possibly residing in what would be considered unthinkable. With an unencumbered mind, there are no limits and thus you truly think past the boundaries that would normally confine you. By thinking the unthinkable, you’ll possess a different mindset, one that will give you an edge in your negotiations … and everything will be right in the world.
So, in the planning stages of your next negotiation consider what solutions you might offer to solve potential problems that you might encounter. In a best case scenario, it should be one that’s aligned with your goals for the negotiation. You’ll be amazed at how imaginative your mindset is and the rewards it gives you from unleashing it. By doing this, you’ll gain subliminal influence with him and you will have progressed the negotiation.




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  1. 31.05.2015 at 10:20:37
    NONDA writes:
    Meditation and chanting, the insight Meditation is a direct and easy type.
  2. 31.05.2015 at 14:32:36
    vefa writes:
    Date woes that mindfulness coaching will help ganges River.
  3. 31.05.2015 at 11:46:48
    Lady_Dronqo writes:
    Cultivated by resting the attention on sensations.
  4. 31.05.2015 at 19:32:40
    59 writes:
    And make clear the connection between what.