The preemption of K-drama and variety shows stemming from the Sewol ferry sinking tragedy last Wednesday continues into this week somewhat. I love everything about it – a few color but mostly throwback black and white, the smart cocktail and formal wear outfits, the sexy but not raunchy poses, and the feeling of posed passion that still manages to convey raw emotion.
I think the real issue here is that you’re getting personally threatened by this perfectly normal and consensual relationship. These pseudo-moralists judging everything by the cover and even falsifying facts come across as prejudiced and naive regarding human nature.
Its obvious that your comment here was to thrashtalk a drama that you personally dont like. If you had watched the show and read the forum on SLA generally speaking snd I PERSONALLY do not glamorize affairs, but we do understand that people hsve different lives and choices, snd its just superficial to think that we have a right to condone them. Added to that, though SLA is a controversial topic it was handled, acted and written beautifully. In this drama, this young man is 20 years old and is an adult in making his own decisions in his life. Just discovered Yoo Ah in in Sungunkwyan Scandal, and it was his charisma and his character that was more powerful than the leads themselves. The acting was pretty solid, but really, the writing went haywire at the second half I was just fast forwarding.
Yoo Ah In really impressed me in Jang Ok Jang, I’m really not a big fan of historical drama but the main actors kept me going, I was so riveted by their acting! I’m not watching this for a few reasons, not the least of which is that I find the age difference kind of icky. I am all for love has no age with some of my fave kdrama stories in noona-songsaeng territories but I am also with Abbie, I too will most likely pass this one… mainly because she is married… she is right, married to the other guy?
Though I am getting the feeling the hubby will be douchebag with affairs of his own and thus that would somehow equate to this secret love affair being okay, romantic and all other description known to man to make it all fair.. And I am also geting the feeling that they are gonna have her divorced by the end of this drama or in the processes of divorcing cause their secret affair is all about love… which is whatever. When it comes to dating and coupling, I am all for any lawful combinations and permutations of age, gender, prior marital experience, nationality, culture and socio-economic background. Both if we look at the word as what it mostly means in English, which is homoerotic pedophilia, and what it means in modern Greek, which is pedophilia (unrelated to sex and gender).
I agree the relationship should be adult and consensual if romanticized in fiction (some of the same people who mind age gaps would not bat an eyelid to wrist grabbing and forced kisses, mind you) and I also believe people need to use words more carefully when they dislike something which is otherwise not unrealistic or deserving of chastising.
I fail to see how a relationship between a man in his twenties and a much older woman, could possibly smack of an adolescent boy and older man. There are a few things that I will not watch or stopped watching when I realized the age of the two characters or of the actors themselves. If Yoo Ah-In’s character in 22 and above, then, well he is an adult who can hook up with whomever he wants. Let me pose a question: If you saw a fifty year old man with a twenty-five year old woman, would you judge them both?
As I said, too, if the roles were reversed, and it was a fifty year old woman and a twenty-five year old man, I would also wonder about it. I just read this after posting my reply and wanted to assure you I wasn’t offended by your views. I think you are well entitled to your opinion and I can see where you are coming from, but I respectfully disagree with you.
On the flip side, there may be advantages to a 50 year old man; maturity, possibly wiser, worldly, more mentally secure, genuinely has his act together and could offer a mature relationship that a 25 year old craves for that she may not necessarily get from guys her age range. Rather than make judgments on people based on age, I would urge you to be a little more open minded and give people the benefit of the doubt they deserve by judging them based on their actions.

That is not to say that age difference may not be bad for a relationship but rather realize that it depends on the people involved.
You may choose to stand by your opinion, but I think its unfair of you to lump all those types of relationships into something ‘ unsettling and icky’ for people that are in beautiful, loving relationships with a huge age gap.
At first I was taken aback about the age difference, but Hee Ae is so beautiful and doesn’t look her age at all, so I am willing to look past that.
It seems Kim Hee Ae lost a lot of weight compared to last year when we saw her in noona over flowers…. They look so cute at the press conference and so intense in the stills…the drama is not my cup of tea but both the leads are looking great! I definitely think its too common in real life, and I do appreciate the realism they’re (hopefully) going to portray. I on the other hand LOVED her in Midas Touch, the best villain I have seen in a long time; and her intellectual chemistry, and power struggle with Jang Hyuk was off the chains. I just wish people would give less credence to dramas like Heirs and give dramas like EOW more clout. On the ninth episode of the cable channel JTBC's "Secret Love Affair" which aired on April 14, 2014, Oh Hye Won, played by Kim Hee Ae, and Lee Sun Jae, played by Yoo Ah In, had a secret meeting at Lee Sun Jae's house without other people knowing.
The major networks have started airing some nightly K-dramas but cable channel jTBC elected to cancel the airing of Secret Love Affair this week. I admit, I could use the break from the intensity, and I feel horrible for the families involved with the ferry disaster. If it bothers you so much then don’t watch it or read articles relating to the drama. Your comment reminds me of a saying my grandmother used when ever ppl said things like your comment. And luckily there are a lot of places in this world, where you can live free to your own preferences without people judging you. You might want to back off and reevaluate your own so-called morals and stop trying to hurt people who aren’t hurting anyone in the slightest.
Reminds me of all those homophobics having their panties in a twist as soon as two men kiss on screen, but don’t wince when a murder is shown or a religion is used to promote murder. Its artifical, in your face sexiness is unsexy to me and doesn’t come close to the layered emotions both evoke in the show itself. Until a certain age, Parents are responsibile for their children’s moral code and when they are able to function as adults and make their own decisions in life, then as parents we step back so they can live their own lives and only step in when needed. Anything can be happen and I feel so sad for THERE IS NO PLACE FOR THIS SUCH OF LOVE AFFAIR. Kim Hee-ae and Yoo Ah-in’s new noona romance promises to be all kinds of scandalous, but their real-life chemistry is more like adorable noona-dongseng trying not to make each other laugh. If the roles were reversed and it was an older man with a younger woman, I would still feel the same.
Also, I believe pederasty is a term exclusively used for gay sexual relations between an older man and (post-pubescent) boy so it’s probably not the term you want to use. I get having issues with the female character being married (although one cannot say the series condones cheating, since we do not know how it will be handled on a moral level), but saying this is pederasty is inaccurate. That is offensive to all people who date outside of their age and not something third parties have the right to judge or call morally indecent based on their own personal preferences.
In this day and age, a relationship between two people, in fiction or reality, where there is more than a ten year age difference, seems ridiculous and strange to me.
They made me think — because I would have a different take if the genders were reversed. If the man and woman in your example ~truly~ love each other or not is not our place to judge them.

I would be more curious about the gender dynamics or power imbalance, but it is not my right to judge them anyway, because once again, they’re adults who have their own private reasons for this. I loved A Wife’s Credentials with all my soul, so I trust this team will give us a haunting story that will not be as simple as choosing an OTP and following a standard trajectory of ~wuv. I do however believe it’s more difficult to feel this way if one party is a teen but that is a whole other issue. And as with any scene in life or fiction, there are nuances to it (I strongly disapprove of much older men going after barely legal girls, but the scenario is different when one party is in, say, their thirties and the other in their fifties or even sixities.
It’s usually those with picture perfect lives that have a whole lot of ugliness going on underneath. Adultery is usually a turn-off for me as well and certainly not a reason to root for a particular ‘ship. JTBC did its job, presented a good drama, people didn’t watch it and they have to balance profitability and content. You may feel that this type of relationship is disgusting, gross, revolting and blah blah blah and you absolutely have the right to your opinion but to say that this is right or wrong between consenting adults is truly absurd.
I haven’t looked at someone younger than me and seen him as a man before, but the more I look at him my standards go up.
Unlike other shows where one fast-forward the scene where the main leads don’t appear, I can never fast forward when he is onscreen.
Would you question if their love is true and not based on basic sexual attraction or even money?
His nose, in particular, looks like an actual nose rather than something carved, flaked and formed. I am not concerned about him getting plastic surgery he’s a great actor afterall but I have the feeling that my sense of observation has kind of failed haha.
When Oh Hye Won saw the text, she hesitated a little bit and went outside, and Lee Sun Jae picked her up and they went on a ride.
Anyone anxious for a new fix of this addicting and thought provoking show will have to summon up more patience and add another week to the wait.
The Elle pictorial also works as a mirror reverse of the story line in SLA, showing Yoo Ah In as a confident playboy while Kim Hee Ae is a sexy femme type, both of which are so not what the characterization and unexpected romance is like in the drama. It shows that such things can happen and it shows the problems and inner conflicts coming along with it.
Unfortunately, I have not been able to watch the other shows he is in because the stories are too ridiculous. But having an affair with your husband’s student is not only scandalous but also an act of adultery. So I’m expecting (hoping for!) a similar treatment where the relationship becomes one the viewers support because the story has earned that support in spite of the many reasons to be against it. Later on, they went to Lee Sun Jae's house and had a romantic time together, kissing each other. Hopefully this photoshoot will help plug the gap this week with no SLA around to challenge our opinions and feed our senses. However, Lee Sun Jae's friend Park Da Mi visited him, and Oh Hye Won had to hide in the attic.
But, that is not always the case and I like that there is a drama willing to explore a relationship with those kind of opinions stacked against it. But funnily no other behavior (lying, mobbing, contract marriage, prostitution, corruption etc.) gets the same treatment by the pseudo-moralists in the fandom like this love.

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